Models

With my family I feel like Krisbergs model is especially accurate in my conflict with my family. First I become aware of my parents ideas, which is a big step into the conflict because sometimes I feel like what they are aware of, I am not, and also if I were aware, why should I care? For example closing the door loudly. My mom simply asked me to be quieter when I closed the door. I was not aware, but she was. This then lead into me getting slightly aggravated. Not necessarily at her, but at other items in my life. This escalated my feelings because I had pent up aggression inside of me and took it out on my mother. Suddenly it didn’t become about closing a door, but turned into her faults and why she was obnoxious etc. Eventually the argument settles and de-escalation occurs either because I realize I’m being unreasonable or she brings it to me attention. Then termination occurs, and lastly outcome. Sometimes the outcome leads into more arguments because I feel unsatisfied with the resolution. Maybe at the end of an argument of food options to pack for lunch, eventually a compromise will be made (between their healthy ideas and my not so healthy ones) and this will lead to another argument after I decide I either need more junk, or more variety.