Conflict For Me Is Like A Soccer Game

For me conflict is like a game of soccer. Before the game, like before a conflict, everything seems fine and I’m just having a good time but when the game starts I become more serious and focused. At the start of a game I also try to make a few goals to go after, and at the beginning of the game my biggest goal is to win. After the first few minutes of the game, the initial confrontation, the game can become fast-paced or calmer. I can also choose to stick back on defense more of the time or push forward and go on the offensive. And once again my choices are made by my goal, which is to either win the conflict or end the conflict without losing to much. Just like in a conflict, a soccer game can bring up a lot of feelings, anger, determination, sympathy, shame and most importantly regret. These feelings have a lot to do with how I play during the game. A soccer game also depends a lot on momentum, whether we have or it or the other team does. When playing soccer, I prefer to play defense, but even though I prefer to play defense I’m constantly thinking about how to go on the offensive. Sometimes when the game is to fast-paced and I know my team needs team to get back to help I need to slow down the game by kicking the ball out of bounds. And like a conflict, sometimes other teammate’s actions can frustrate me, like if they foul someone and it leads to a penalty. A game can also be more team based or it can be more one-on-one with an offender. Sometimes the game can be a league game where a lot of people are paying attention and sometimes it’s more like a scrimmage where not that many people are there; but in my town word a lot of people hear about how the scrimmages went. A game can also differ depending on the ref, sometimes the game is dirty and involves more violent conflict and other times I have to play clean to make sure you make it to the end of the game. But besides the ref I also have to decide how I want to play, like if I feel like playing a cleanly or throwing some elbows when I get the chance. How I choose to play is mostly based on how the other team plays against me, if they play dirty so will I. Like a conflict a soccer game isn’t a short thing, and even if we’re winning we have to pay attention to everything going on. To go along with that, I have to preserve myself during a game, I don’t want to do anything rash in the first few minutes but toward the end when I’m getting tired I’m more likely to make rash decisions. Lastly, the biggest similarity between my conflicts and soccer is the feeling at the end of a game. Sometimes I feel good that we won, other times I feel that you could’ve done more but we still won. And on the other side, when I lose I can feel terrible because I might have messed up a lot, other times I feel like the other team outplayed us and just had more skill and sometimes I feel completely embarrassed at how badly we lost. My conflicts are also different then a soccer game in some ways. For one, sometimes fights aren’t worth finishing and there’s no reason to continue the conflict, so I just push it away and leave but in a soccer game I can’t just give up. And sometimes in a conflict even when I win I still feel like I lost.