I have learned that I have an accommodating conflict style. I have a higher concern for others than for myself in conflict, and so I am likely to give up my own goals and needs or concede something I want in order to please others. I tend to make analytic or conciliatory remarks when communicating with the other parties in the conflict and I engage in active listening, often reframing the thoughts or expressions of the other parties. I am also likely to use collaboration as a conflict style, especially if the topic is of more importance to me. I will accommodate with the other party if the issue is not as important, and I feel that I can give in: this is because I am placing more emphasis on what the other party wants. However, if the conflict is over something very important to me, then I will work harder to achieve what I want, while still holding the needs of the other in mind. I will try to work together with the other party to reach an integrative solution, and put all of our interests out on the table so that the best possible solution can be reached to satisfy both of our wants and needs. If I use contentious tactics they are usually of the softer variety, such as persuasive arguments or ingratiation rather than threats. I generally avoid getting into the cycle of tit-for-tat tactics but I still tend to be rather direct.
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