Journal 8 End conflicts

My conflicts seems to end with tension. I feel like winning becomes too important and eventually some sort of compromise is made which leads to more fighting because needs weren’t properly met. I think I want conflicts to end even if the outcome isn’t for the best. Often I get caught up in zero sum thinking where if I’m not winning, I’m losing. Therefore if I feel I’ve lost an argument, I tend to believe whatever the resolution is, it isn’t in my best interest. In the world around me I see many conflicts and I’d say the majority end with one person conceding their point and become subjected to the parameters of the winner in the argument. I also see conflicts end and sometimes never even resolve. People end up avoiding each other until the conflict is dropped, which in this case sometimes continues and the two parties never make up and continue to avoid each other. Compromises also occur in conflicts I’ve seen where logic is the deciding factor. If a person can see the end in the way the other does through logic, then the conflict can end.